captain-pride: Trauma often messes with one’s ability to say “no”.  You either consciously or subconsciously think, “I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings” or “If I say no, then they’ll hurt me” or “It won’t really be that bad” or “I can handle this” or “I need to do this to prove myself” or “I deserve this”, or you forget that “no” …

sathinfection: So I’ve been a little absent on Tumblr recently because there’s been a situation involving my job and my LGBT community that has required me to invest tremendous emotional capital (and a lot of time) into protesting, petitioning, corresponding, and meeting with people who don’t care that there are organizations actively working to take …

shadowthephoenix: If you really want to help people who have been victims/survivors of abuse and/or people with mental illness, please give a little more effort to how you speak. ‘You don’t deserve to be treated poorly’ > ‘Don’t let people treat you poorly’ ‘You haven’t done anything you need to apologize for, it’s okay’ > …

sptrashcan: coelasquid: stephrc79: howler32557038: Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings …

bi-privilege: why the idea that “hate breeds hate” is toxic, oppressive, and false: it blames oppressed groups for the actions of their oppressors. oppression exists because privilege exists and bigotry exists, not because oppressed groups are big ol’ meanies or whatever. it shifts the focus of the discussion from that actual problem. sorry if i don’t consider …

Partner has gone nonverbal, what do I do? (info)

giveitawideberth: bdsmpetplay: So I am one of the unfortunate souls who goes nonverbal whenever I get severely stressed out and/or self-loathing (because I think I screwed something up between me and my partner) SO, To help others out  who have possibly had this issue (or have a partner who have this issue), here’s some tips …

Virus Warning!

the-faunus-girl: burning-firecracker: redheaded-target: If you receive a message saying: “Hello somebody wrote something about you on this blog. visit [link]” don’t click the link. It is, from my understanding, a Trojan Virus; meaning that the message will be sent to everybody else either following you or that you’re following (I was sent the message from a mutual …

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